So we have been thinking about threesomes, foursomes and even group sex for quite some time now. Of course we had to talk about what would be OK for each of us. This is where the problem for most couples begins – they don’t or can’t talk to each other about what they really want or might want to try.

Fortunately, Candy and I did talk about every possible thing – from touching to penetrating. Of course it takes some time to even just think about the fact that your partner puts his thing into another woman – or – that you girl is getting banged by some other guy. Think about it – isn’t that the exact thing WHY you want to do it?

If, as a couple, you do swinging or 3/4 somes you should never do it to have sex with another person “legally”. If this is the case – break up and enjoy your sex drive.

So you made the decision that you want to share you sex life with others in some way – make sure that you play through every possible situation that could happen when all three or four are naked in one bed.

I can only speak for us – but nothing but a full swap makes sense for us. We all know how we are when we are horny and I guess we will be VERY horny once we made it into one bed with a guy, girl or couple. So this is a totally different situation than layin on the couch with your loved one. To think you or your partner does just enjoy watching the other couple or person – well just watch a porn or a strip show. You will want to do more with them, so a soft swap – at east for us is not an option, just because we know how we are when it comes to sex.

It does NOT mean it has to happen. If we feel ok to just touch or have oral sex – well that’s what happens. We just do not want to limit ourselves to not to go all the way.